Life is so much easier when you stop playing the ego game. One thing I quickly realized is that literally every single person you talk to (this applies to everyone) thinks that they're better than you in one way or another. It's easier to just let them think that.
"Hey man, do you still have those bitcoin"?
"Nah, sold it a couple years ago at a loss."
"Are you making a lot of money with your online business?"
"It pays the bills but that's about it."
Let them win the ego battle and your life becomes a lot less stressful.
That's the beauty of the Jungle. We can talk about high-level topics and haters have nothing to focus their jealousy on. I'm just a starter fish that costs 87 cents at Petco with a bowtie.
Y’all are playing a different game than I am. But the ego thing runs true. I run across people all the time who think they’re better than me. It is easier to just let them think I am dumber than I am or significantly less well than they are.
BTB mentioned “Life is single player” a few days ago. I finally became comfortable with myself in my mid-30s when I figured this out. I was less concerned with earning the respect of others and did what made me happy.
Agreed. Also agree about not caring about the results. Learn to enjoy the ride.
Introvert here. The ego stuff (social henpecking) makes a lot of sense and is a reason why I had to cut off certain family members. I don't have my life down and I know I'm not the best in the jungle. I'm unplugged from society, buying a new car, a new boat is a very good way to live paycheck to paycheck. At the end of the day all that matters is your bottom line. One of the most memorable discussions I had in college was a professor asking all of us how we define what rich is.
Do you find it hard to remember all these fake stuff you tell people? Got called out the other day for an inconsistency but managed to brush it off - said I sold all my crypto when markets plunged but then subsequently said I had "a bit left". Thanks.
Thanks BTB. As someone who is late to the game and discovering this, it all rings true. I’m at the point in life where I made my path and accept it. I’m trying to build these skills to pass them on to my young kids. When I was lost in my late teens and early 20s I wish I received this advice instead of being told to go the safe route and work for someone else.
Staring into my 40s, I have a comfortable and traditional path for myself. The goal though is for my children to be better than I am. My wife teaches me how to provide them with the confidence and self worth I never had and BTB is teaching how to give them a chance to be successful.
This is smart, better to learn at a young age than keep repeating the cycle over and over again on why people still work a job they hate even when you give them a blueprint to make more money. It's always easier to blame [insert boogeyman group] than go out and blaze your own path.
The "Don't Care about the Results" is somewhat misleading. Instead, think of a scientist running an experiment, and observing the results. Negative outcomes are useful. BTW, bad science happens when the scientist tries to force a result, which is why a lot of studies can not be replicated.
Socially, there is the confidence vs. desperation effect. The one trying to force a result comes off as fake and/or creepy. The one that doesn't care comes off as natural and/or confident.
- What are you actually good at? What industry wants a person like that?
- You should be able to narrow down your choices to a handful of skills/ideas/groups. Then you move with aggression.
- Major industries that will never go away: 1) dating, 2) sales/inter-personal skills, 3) investing, 4) skin care, 5) diet and 6) anything else that people will need 100 years from now.
- Under age 30? Move fast. Pedal on gas, deal with issues as they pop.
sales may be the best career out of all 3. Even if tech and m&a may pay more right out the gate, in sales you learn how to sell which directly correlates with online businesses. the psychology of sales irl and online is the same.
I have a mentality/psychology question. Does anyone else have "residual poverty". For example, even when you're making it, you're still looking over your shoulder for something bad to come along and wipe it out.
I have a generational study/analysis I've been doing for the past 15 years. The purpose of it is predicting the future with the highest possible accuracy. It's predicting very nicely and will continue well into the future. Want to have a look?
Great post. As someone in their mid twenties trying to start their first internet business/venture, I must keep avoiding the result orientated/over planning mindset. School/engineering career made me favor comfortable/easiest path. Must accept failure part of the game.
Life is so much easier when you stop playing the ego game. One thing I quickly realized is that literally every single person you talk to (this applies to everyone) thinks that they're better than you in one way or another. It's easier to just let them think that.
"Hey man, do you still have those bitcoin"?
"Nah, sold it a couple years ago at a loss."
"Are you making a lot of money with your online business?"
"It pays the bills but that's about it."
Let them win the ego battle and your life becomes a lot less stressful.
That's the beauty of the Jungle. We can talk about high-level topics and haters have nothing to focus their jealousy on. I'm just a starter fish that costs 87 cents at Petco with a bowtie.
Y’all are playing a different game than I am. But the ego thing runs true. I run across people all the time who think they’re better than me. It is easier to just let them think I am dumber than I am or significantly less well than they are.
BTB mentioned “Life is single player” a few days ago. I finally became comfortable with myself in my mid-30s when I figured this out. I was less concerned with earning the respect of others and did what made me happy.
Agreed. Also agree about not caring about the results. Learn to enjoy the ride.
Introvert here. The ego stuff (social henpecking) makes a lot of sense and is a reason why I had to cut off certain family members. I don't have my life down and I know I'm not the best in the jungle. I'm unplugged from society, buying a new car, a new boat is a very good way to live paycheck to paycheck. At the end of the day all that matters is your bottom line. One of the most memorable discussions I had in college was a professor asking all of us how we define what rich is.
What did you say?
I said anyone who shows up on MTV cribs.
Do you find it hard to remember all these fake stuff you tell people? Got called out the other day for an inconsistency but managed to brush it off - said I sold all my crypto when markets plunged but then subsequently said I had "a bit left". Thanks.
Yeah all the time. Don't really have a solution for that.
"If you want to make friends, you don’t type/talk/write like this"
Oh, well this explains a lot
Yeah for me too
* outside the Jungle.
Thanks BTB. As someone who is late to the game and discovering this, it all rings true. I’m at the point in life where I made my path and accept it. I’m trying to build these skills to pass them on to my young kids. When I was lost in my late teens and early 20s I wish I received this advice instead of being told to go the safe route and work for someone else.
Staring into my 40s, I have a comfortable and traditional path for myself. The goal though is for my children to be better than I am. My wife teaches me how to provide them with the confidence and self worth I never had and BTB is teaching how to give them a chance to be successful.
"Smile, nod and agree".
This simple advice has eliminated so much negative energy from my life, and for that I'm forever grateful.
It's a cheat code.
I once heard it expressed in other words:
Do you want to be right or happy?
“Smile, Nod and Agree”.
Just today, my college friends were discussing in chat, what to buy between land and bonds for investment.
And my first thought was to type bitcorn but ultimately did not.
I thought to myself
"All these people are intelligent and successful, and they have secretly invested in gripto more than you."
"They are just fucking around"
"shut your mouth and start earning more"
This is my default thought process going forward. No more advices to anyone except my brother.
That's all. I have been burned too many times for free advice.
This is smart, better to learn at a young age than keep repeating the cycle over and over again on why people still work a job they hate even when you give them a blueprint to make more money. It's always easier to blame [insert boogeyman group] than go out and blaze your own path.
"Don't care about results": this is similar to Scott Adams' Systems vs. Goals (How to Fail at Everything... book)
"Once you see something works, step on the gas."
Win the gas wars LOL
Man this was your best post of the year, love the philosophical/life advice approach, insane value.
The "Don't Care about the Results" is somewhat misleading. Instead, think of a scientist running an experiment, and observing the results. Negative outcomes are useful. BTW, bad science happens when the scientist tries to force a result, which is why a lot of studies can not be replicated.
Socially, there is the confidence vs. desperation effect. The one trying to force a result comes off as fake and/or creepy. The one that doesn't care comes off as natural and/or confident.
Fantastic post. Saving this for my kids. It's about the process, not results.
Fantastic post.
My highlights:
- What are you actually good at? What industry wants a person like that?
- You should be able to narrow down your choices to a handful of skills/ideas/groups. Then you move with aggression.
- Major industries that will never go away: 1) dating, 2) sales/inter-personal skills, 3) investing, 4) skin care, 5) diet and 6) anything else that people will need 100 years from now.
- Under age 30? Move fast. Pedal on gas, deal with issues as they pop.
- Life is really about living with brutal truths.
- Stop Caring About the Results
sales may be the best career out of all 3. Even if tech and m&a may pay more right out the gate, in sales you learn how to sell which directly correlates with online businesses. the psychology of sales irl and online is the same.
I have a mentality/psychology question. Does anyone else have "residual poverty". For example, even when you're making it, you're still looking over your shoulder for something bad to come along and wipe it out.
I have a generational study/analysis I've been doing for the past 15 years. The purpose of it is predicting the future with the highest possible accuracy. It's predicting very nicely and will continue well into the future. Want to have a look?
Great post. As someone in their mid twenties trying to start their first internet business/venture, I must keep avoiding the result orientated/over planning mindset. School/engineering career made me favor comfortable/easiest path. Must accept failure part of the game.
I so often think without taking action, so I found this post great and hope it gains traction